Need some advice now....?

ive been dating my man for 4 yrs ...he recently proposed unofficially ...i love him and all but he is paranoid ....i can live with some of the issues i have with him but some are just weird ...do u think i can see past the bad and settle for the good he has cause he has a lot of good and some of the stuff we have problem with are sometimes for my own good but im stubborn and i sometimes think he is trying to control me ....how can i realize when he is trying to put things in perspective for my own good or when its just him trying to control me ....like if i wear extensions in my hair he says he would rather see my real hair ...if i go out 3 weekends he says he doesnt like me turning into a party freak ....i sometimes tell myself he is just insecure and jealous like most human being but sometimes i question it can i live with it for the rest of my life or am i just barking up the wrong tree... but how can u throw away a 4 yr rlationship for just intuition.........

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I think he just cares about you...my bf hates it when i dye my hair or put make-up not....it's not that I look terrible when I do it, but that he wants to see ME not a bunch of crud that covers me up. I don't think you should "settle" for anything or anyone....that's not right, but I also think that there are probably things that you think about him in that way...you need to sit down and talk one on one. If you have been together 4 yrs you should be able to tell him how you feel by now.

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It sounds like he's pretty controlling. His behaviors are pretty typical for the beginnings of an abusive relationship. Besides, if he's like this now he's not going to change.

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talk to him, weigh the pros an cons of relationship. sometimes we don't want to get out to our comfort zone or not to take a risk, we rather stick to what we have eventhough we are not happy. life is living, we should live and make the most of it. changes is ok. but it also hard to find a good guy. goodluck!

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Now dont see in past if the guy is feeling jelus on you while you are in party than guess what happens if he saw you with your old college firend he might be get so much angry or may be he can harm you. Stop realtion with him and look for the good one. If you can.

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If you decide to invest in this four year relationship and it does not improve, then what? Hey, if you are content with what is going on now, then go for it. But if you are not, and it seems like you are not, then take a second look at what you are about to commit to. What attracted him to you in the first place? Where did you meet? If it was because you were creative or wild or whatever, and if it was at a bar, then I would say their is some control and being a hypocrite to his new found statements or realizations. You should not have your spirit taken from you. That is something that many women (and men) wish they had more of. And you will cherish it more as you grow older (and wiser).